Many intuitively believe that people are more empathic toward those who experience difficulties they also encountered.
This linkage between challenging life experiences and subsequent empathy was posited by University of Massachusetts’s Ervin Staub and Joanna Vollhardt of Clark University, and confirmed in experiments by Northeastern’s Daniel Lim and David DiSteno.
However, this connection is more complicated, found Northwestern’s Rachel Ruttan and Loran Nordgren with Mary-Hunter McDonnell of Wharton.
The team exposed volunteers to people who expressed dejection in enduring a hardship such as bullying or unemployment.
Participants who recalled similar past hardships remembered them as less distressing than they were originally experienced, and were more likely to harshly judge others in similar circumstances for their difficulties in enduring the situation.
In fact, volunteers who previously coped with severe bullying felt less — not more — compassion for current bullying victims.
Likewise, those who had faced greater difficulty with unemployment had less empathy for people who were currently jobless.
This confirms the “tough love” approach implied in the late U.S. Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia’s directive to Americans dismayed with the 2000 election outcome: “Get over it!”
However, when the the volunteers’ adversity experiences differed from the current suffers’ difficulties, participants were more compassionate.
The “empathy gap” emerged only when survivors of similar hardships showed less understanding for current suffers.
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