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Comment on Women Balance on the Negotiation Tightrope to Avoid Backlash by kathrynwelds

kathrynwelds — Mon, 06 May 2013 18:33:48 +0000

Thanks for mentioning your experience, with seems to reflect the research findings on backlash and harsh judgments of women at work – especially women not judged as “nice” or “happy.”
As you point out, it can help to focus on “the bigger picture,” like financial self-sufficiency, and consider that achieving respect in the workplace might be as satisfying — and perhaps as effective — as being “liked.” You also point to an effective exit strategy: entrepreneurship, for those with the confidence and financial “staying power.” Thanks for your wide-ranging comment, covering the experiences of so many in the workplace.

Comment on Women Balance on the Negotiation Tightrope to Avoid Backlash by PeachTrotter

PeachTrotter — Mon, 06 May 2013 16:57:45 +0000

Thank you, MW, for sharing. Now I do not feel so alone. I, too, have experienced backlash when asking for raises and basically any time I am not “smiley, smiley” and jovial. Sometimes I simply do not feel like smiling. And just because I am not smiling does not mean that I am angry, hostile or any of a multitude of emotions I am accused of being by many men in the workplace. Thankfully, after many, MANY years of beating my skull against a brick wall, I now understand how I need to present myself so that most men do not feel … well, whatever it is negative that many men in the workplace seem to feel towards me. It has required me to feign acquiescence and deference when I am sometimes boiling angry or simply gobsmacked by stupidity. But at the end of the day it keeps the paycheck coming and most of the time I can avoid conflicts. In the end, I think that the only way a woman can really just simply be herself in the workplace without being unjustly labeled is to run her own company. And just for the record – no, I do not believe that ALL men are alike. It is just that I have encountered a majority of men in positions of authority that do fit this profile that I have learned to be extremely leery in the workplace. In some ways I feel that I was raised within a lie. That being that women can be and/or do anything they want. The part that is a lie is the expectation that most men – and even some women – will admire, respect and like a woman who achieves. I have found respect. Grudging respect and even some admiration at that, by some. But mostly forget the “like” part.

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Comment on STEAM-powered Innovation: Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, Mathematics by kathrynwelds

kathrynwelds — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 01:53:25 +0000

Thanks for the reminder of a “third point” as a perceptual shift from the tunnel vision of deep immersion in one discipline, Jennifer. “Breaking perceptual set” is crucial for any creative breakthrough, whether artistic or commercial innovation. I hope you’ll continue the discussion in your blog, since you integrate both perspectives.

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Comment on Women’s Career Development Model – Individual Action in Career Planning and the Contest and Sponsorship Pathways to Advancement – Part 1 of 2 by kathrynwelds

kathrynwelds — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 01:49:42 +0000

Thank you, Jennifer, for taking time to comment.

These two articles summarize the framework used to organize Cisco’s recent Women in Technology Forum Career Panel, featuring five executives: Laura Grams as moderator, with Afsaneh Laidlaw, VP of Engineering, Sridevi Koneru Rao, Director of Business Development in Cisco Services, Lance Perry, VP of IT, and Colin S Kincaid, VP of Product Management in Network Operating Systems Technology Group.

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Comment on STEAM-powered Innovation: Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, Mathematics by Jennifer Hartnett-Henderson

Jennifer Hartnett-Henderson — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 00:41:06 +0000

Loved Ramirez reframe that we fail our way to an answer and the whole post was quite generative. It made me think of Lean In Circles and Greenlight groups which help the participants make “discoveries in other disciplines” that they might be able to apply to their own problems. Your post also reminded me that having broad interests in life also gives us a “third point” from which to look. Thanks for putting this together!